Even though I am successful and spend my life coaching and speaking to others on how to have success in their life, the one thing I have never conquered is my weight. I gained over 100 lbs while taking care of my mother when she was terminally ill. No matter what I tried, I was never able to release the weight. It has, however, never stopped me from anything I have wanted to do. I speak in front of 1000’s and have been on TV etc. O.K. OK. So it has stopped me from roller-blading in a bikini…but it really just is I have no balance. In the past few months, I finally figured out what held my weight on my body. I would feel privileged to share my thought with you - the top 3 things that have assisted me in releasing my weight are: 1) We need to explore what benefit does our weight serve? Does it disguise loneliness, lack of nurturance, a trauma from the past? For me, it was the loss of so many family and friends. As I accessed my past, I realized that with each loss I gained weight, and somehow in my mind, if I lost weight…I lost them. Since I have figured out how my weight has served me…I have been able to release it (I am currently down 37 lbs); 2) We need to take 100% responsibility for our life. Each moment you make a decision…make the best decision you are capable of making at that moment. I have no one to blame but myself for what I eat. I have to accept full responsibility for allowing my body to be in its current state. If you say to yourself “diet,” the human mind will resist…. it will feel lack…. Tell yourself you can have anything you want…then, when making the choice of what to eat, make the very best choice possible. If our mind perceives we have to suffer, or we have to restrict, or deprive, it will fight us. We already feel lack or loss…that is why many diets fail. A person of weight is in a state of lack for something, someone… Change your mind set in baby steps. If you are used to eating a quarter-pound hamburger and large fries…order a small fry and a smaller hamburger…till you can make a better choice. Tell yourself - This is your desire…your choice. Over time…your choice will get better… Your own mind will start to feel empowered to make better and better choices. These small changes will start to build your self-esteem… You will see wins, instead of loses; 3) Love yourself right where you are now. I am very; very fortunate…my self-esteem is not based on the scale… I have been larger and smaller, and my confidence and self-esteem is the same at either weight… Do I feel sassier as a smaller size…..YES! Do I love myself anymore, or less…NO!!!!!! You are a beautiful child of God…you have intelligence, a sense of humor, a loving nature, and many qualities that are the essence of you. Celebrate the essences of you… NO ONE can make you feel bad about yourself unless you give them your power… DO NOT give them your power. Look, at Oprah….Do you love her any less if she gains or loses weight….NO…Do you think she is less intelligent thinner or heavier…NO….Do you think her heart gets smaller with her waistline…NOT A CHANCE… So why are you less then? Because your waistline may be more then… LOVE YOURSELF for all you are inside…Do me a favor…Write a list of your top ten qualities…Your internal qualities. Who are you? After you write your top 10 qualities I want you to list your top 5 strengths. I want you to ask at least 5 other people what they think are your best qualities. I want you to concentrate on the positive things about you. I want you to love yourself, and realize that you have amazing qualities…and amazing new possibilities will open to you, as you release yourself from your prison of weight… As I read through these posts….I thought what wonderful women were writing…I wonder what kind of friend she is? I wonder what she has done to help another? I wonder how her great sense of humor will lift someone today? My dear Sisters…Love yourself… Accept yourself… Do not give anyone your power, or your essence… You shine… Praise yourself for the great things about you, and yourself.

Your esteem will turn around, and you will have the power to be the best you…at any size.

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