We are loving, kind, smart, sensitive, and amazing - capable of unlimited capacities.

Taken from the book: Keys to Instant Self-Esteem By : Michelle O’Connell

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KEY: Love yourself today, right now. Be happy where you are and be excited about where you are going!

Taken from the Book: Keys to Instant Self Esteem by Michelle O’Connell
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You wouldn’t have a glass of pure fruit juice and load up the glass to the top with crushed ice.

You get less juice ……and the greatness, the sweetness, the purity of the juice gets diluted.

The same holds true with your life: Get rid of all the junk clogging up your greatness.

Let it go!

Its spring and time to clean out the old, and usher in the new. The dead grass renews itself; the leaves on the trees begin to turn green, the flowers bloom. I love spring. The first thing I do as soon as they come out in the store is buy a hyacinth…..I have a pink one on my desk right now. I love the soft pastel colors, and the beautiful smell. Each of us has a favorite flower… A friend of mine loves red roses, another loves gardenias, another marigolds. . My favorites are Peonies, hyacinth and lilacs. Does that make my friends right, and me wrong? Does that make a Rose less beautiful, or a tulip…less a tulip? Each flower has its own amazing smell, look and shade of color. Each person has their own look, their own style, their own shades of traits and character. Celebrate your differences…..Stand proud of your body, your looks, your mind, your personality. A gardenia was meant to be a gardenia…..A Peony was meant to be a peony. They do not spend their day in the garden going: Gosh, I wish I were at tulip….. No, they grow and bloom in all their beauty. They stand out in the garden as to say….Am I not beautiful…just the way I am?
We need to stand out in our own garden, and say: Am I not beautiful…just the way I am!!!

Some will….Some won’t ..So What….Someones waiting…..
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We each have a uniqueness…we need to celebrate our diversity instead of trying to fit the same mold. “Each women is like an instrument in the symphony of life…each has a different sound, a different shape, a different purpose, but together we can make beautiful music…we can create great masterpieces together.”

I watched a show today on Dr. Phil. www.drphil.com The story was about a young teen and young mom who would rather die than be fat…..my heart just breaks. We live in a world where people are willing to die, just to fit in a social society that is false. Sad…awfully sad. I wish I could inject them with self love. I wish I could help them understand how that their beauty does not lie in the number on the scale. I wish I could tell them that how much they weigh is NOT more important than their souls….their personalities, love. I have been heavier..I have been thinner. I am the same person at any weight. We need to learn to love ourselves not for our physical image…but for our internal soul. My heart just broke for both ladies. Our physical form can be changed in an instant….Why do they think they are less lovable with a change in weight. Sadly, there are definitely deeper issues here… I just wish I could tell all those that suffer with weight issues that you need to take yourself out of your size. If you are a size zero or a size 54…..celebrate the best of you. Are you a kind person? Are you an awesome parent? Do you serve others? Are you the healer among your family and friends? These are qualities of great beauty…..These are attributes to be proud of…..Let your radiance shine…..Be the best you ….at any size. Do NOT let the numbers on the scale let you believe you are less than. Each of us has amazing qualities……Each of us has abilities that are special…….You will be living your very best life if you share who you are with others…..Let your radiance shine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Check out the Jan 3 2008 show on www.drphil.com

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Even though I am successful and spend my life coaching and speaking to others on how to have success in their life, the one thing I have never conquered is my weight. I gained over 100 lbs while taking care of my mother when she was terminally ill. No matter what I tried, I was never able to release the weight. It has, however, never stopped me from anything I have wanted to do. I speak in front of 1000’s and have been on TV etc. O.K. OK. So it has stopped me from roller-blading in a bikini…but it really just is I have no balance. In the past few months, I finally figured out what held my weight on my body. I would feel privileged to share my thought with you - the top 3 things that have assisted me in releasing my weight are: 1) We need to explore what benefit does our weight serve? Does it disguise loneliness, lack of nurturance, a trauma from the past? For me, it was the loss of so many family and friends. As I accessed my past, I realized that with each loss I gained weight, and somehow in my mind, if I lost weight…I lost them. Since I have figured out how my weight has served me…I have been able to release it (I am currently down 37 lbs); 2) We need to take 100% responsibility for our life. Each moment you make a decision…make the best decision you are capable of making at that moment. I have no one to blame but myself for what I eat. I have to accept full responsibility for allowing my body to be in its current state. If you say to yourself “diet,” the human mind will resist…. it will feel lack…. Tell yourself you can have anything you want…then, when making the choice of what to eat, make the very best choice possible. If our mind perceives we have to suffer, or we have to restrict, or deprive, it will fight us. We already feel lack or loss…that is why many diets fail. A person of weight is in a state of lack for something, someone… Change your mind set in baby steps. If you are used to eating a quarter-pound hamburger and large fries…order a small fry and a smaller hamburger…till you can make a better choice. Tell yourself - This is your desire…your choice. Over time…your choice will get better… Your own mind will start to feel empowered to make better and better choices. These small changes will start to build your self-esteem… You will see wins, instead of loses; 3) Love yourself right where you are now. I am very; very fortunate…my self-esteem is not based on the scale… I have been larger and smaller, and my confidence and self-esteem is the same at either weight… Do I feel sassier as a smaller size…..YES! Do I love myself anymore, or less…NO!!!!!! You are a beautiful child of God…you have intelligence, a sense of humor, a loving nature, and many qualities that are the essence of you. Celebrate the essences of you… NO ONE can make you feel bad about yourself unless you give them your power… DO NOT give them your power. Look, at Oprah….Do you love her any less if she gains or loses weight….NO…Do you think she is less intelligent thinner or heavier…NO….Do you think her heart gets smaller with her waistline…NOT A CHANCE… So why are you less then? Because your waistline may be more then… LOVE YOURSELF for all you are inside…Do me a favor…Write a list of your top ten qualities…Your internal qualities. Who are you? After you write your top 10 qualities I want you to list your top 5 strengths. I want you to ask at least 5 other people what they think are your best qualities. I want you to concentrate on the positive things about you. I want you to love yourself, and realize that you have amazing qualities…and amazing new possibilities will open to you, as you release yourself from your prison of weight… As I read through these posts….I thought what wonderful women were writing…I wonder what kind of friend she is? I wonder what she has done to help another? I wonder how her great sense of humor will lift someone today? My dear Sisters…Love yourself… Accept yourself… Do not give anyone your power, or your essence… You shine… Praise yourself for the great things about you, and yourself.

Your esteem will turn around, and you will have the power to be the best you…at any size.

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How to Feel Great About Yourself No Matter What

Most women today have an issue with their image. Magazines and the media usually focus on a woman’s weight and size. Although this is an issue, there are other things that can really affect your confidence level.

Working With What You Have

The main thing that you have to remember is that everyone is beautiful in their own way. Look at the women around you and see what you notice the most about them. Is it their eyes? Their lips? Their weight? Their personality? Whatever it is, there is at least one thing that you like about them. The question you then have to ask yourself is what do people see when they look at you? What is your best feature? By realizing where your strengths lie, you can focus on that and draw attention there.

By celebrating your differences and highlighting your best features, you will become more confident. You need to learn to focus upon the things that you like. Pamper yourself as much as possible and generally just take good care of yourself. That way you will feel better about yourself and your confidence will improve because of it.